Boring, lying, cheating - why be in a relationship with someone who you can describe with such negative words? Believe it or not everyone has an ideal match, or someone close to being their ideal. Sure you probably won't be as lucky as the couple in Justin Timberlake's recent music video Mirrors but you should be aiming at getting there. All relationships have their rough patches, but if you have more rough patches than smooth patches then what's your reason for holding on?
Once a cheater not always a cheater.
I say this because some people really can change, but that's only if they realise that even though they can live without you they don't want to. If someone is boring to you and you're always trying to get them more interesting then don't you think it's about time you realise you both incompatible? Lying is a whole different story, some persons have a psychological disorder and they just can't help themselves. The bottom line is you have to know when it's time cut your losses and start anew.
There are so many different ways you can choose to break up with someone, you can go the "victim" route where you allow your partner to break up with you even though you schemed the whole thing. There's the route where you tell your partner that you want a break and want to see other people for a while - if you really want you can make this break be a permanent one. Another way is to neglect your partner and set no dates or time for you two to hang out. This is the route where you and your partner "grow apart" but intentionally on your part.
No matter which route you take you will still feel guilty about it, so why not just choose the honest route?
Set a final date, go somewhere that is not crowded but has enough people around so your soon to be ex-partner doesn't do anything to dramatic and try to change your mind. Make sure the scenery of the place is neutral so that they won't develop some strange phobia of say a waterfall with water lilies in it. You can start off with saying something like "You know what I like about? I like your smile, your need to cheer people up and those amazing cream cheese stuffed french toasts you make". Then let them know that you can't help but feel that their smile and french toasts are meant to cheer some other lucky person up but not you. Let them know that you can no longer commit to the relationship and that you wish them all the best. End by saying something like - "you're great. I really wish we were more compatible, but we're not so it makes no sense to continue this relationship". If you want you could list out a few of the things you dislike about your relationship with them, but remember not to be harsh.
One day they'll thank you for setting them free.
Once a cheater not always a cheater.
I say this because some people really can change, but that's only if they realise that even though they can live without you they don't want to. If someone is boring to you and you're always trying to get them more interesting then don't you think it's about time you realise you both incompatible? Lying is a whole different story, some persons have a psychological disorder and they just can't help themselves. The bottom line is you have to know when it's time cut your losses and start anew.
There are so many different ways you can choose to break up with someone, you can go the "victim" route where you allow your partner to break up with you even though you schemed the whole thing. There's the route where you tell your partner that you want a break and want to see other people for a while - if you really want you can make this break be a permanent one. Another way is to neglect your partner and set no dates or time for you two to hang out. This is the route where you and your partner "grow apart" but intentionally on your part.
No matter which route you take you will still feel guilty about it, so why not just choose the honest route?
Set a final date, go somewhere that is not crowded but has enough people around so your soon to be ex-partner doesn't do anything to dramatic and try to change your mind. Make sure the scenery of the place is neutral so that they won't develop some strange phobia of say a waterfall with water lilies in it. You can start off with saying something like "You know what I like about? I like your smile, your need to cheer people up and those amazing cream cheese stuffed french toasts you make". Then let them know that you can't help but feel that their smile and french toasts are meant to cheer some other lucky person up but not you. Let them know that you can no longer commit to the relationship and that you wish them all the best. End by saying something like - "you're great. I really wish we were more compatible, but we're not so it makes no sense to continue this relationship". If you want you could list out a few of the things you dislike about your relationship with them, but remember not to be harsh.
One day they'll thank you for setting them free.